I would love to offer advice but because I don’t know the entire situation it would be very difficult to do so. It seems like you have thought this through a lot and are coming at it from a compassionate and understanding angle. We all view life from our ow perspective and create stories that we tend to stick to and believe. Sounds like you’re open to seeing the other side, which is a great place to sit. I think if you continue to seek to understand you will be able to solve this in time. Communication in these situations is key (& it looks like that has been happening). Thanks for reaching out!